tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post3738574229461945024..comments2023-09-13T08:28:21.769-07:00Comments on FLIB-ur-tee-jib-it <i>(n.)</i>: Marriage CheckupIrenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07757048792813005486noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-68240181598753003662007-03-17T23:42:00.000-07:002007-03-17T23:42:00.000-07:00Hmmm, so what happens if the couple who lives in h...Hmmm, so what happens if the couple who lives in harmony, suddenly becomes disharmonious? Are you suggesting that a truly harmonious (or compatible) couple never fight? Never face stresses or temptations? Never have a disharmonious situation forced upon them that they have to deal with? Don't tell me that never happens. <BR/><BR/>BTW Anonymous, are you married? I'm curious.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07757048792813005486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-85379319509800079102007-03-17T23:27:00.000-07:002007-03-17T23:27:00.000-07:00Main Entry: com·pat·i·ble Pronunciation: k&m-'pa-t...Main Entry: com·pat·i·ble <BR/>Pronunciation: k&m-'pa-t&-b&l<BR/>Function: adjective<BR/>Etymology: Middle English, from Medieval Latin compatibilis, literally, sympathetic, from Late Latin compati<BR/><BR/>1 : capable of existing together in harmony (compatible theories) (compatible people)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-69268417872401396682007-03-17T22:28:00.000-07:002007-03-17T22:28:00.000-07:00I am not saying that I do not believe in compatibi...I am not saying that I do not believe in compatibility. I am also not saying that compatibility is not important to successful relationships.<BR/><BR/>What I am challenging is the use of "100%" when describing how compatible someone is with another. What measure is used for someone to say that they are 100% compatible as opposed to 75% compatible?<BR/><BR/>In the absence of an objective definition, 100% implies perfection to me, and I do not know anybody who claims their relationship is perfect.<BR/><BR/>One person can "feel" they are 100% compatible based one set of criteria, but if given another set of criteria, find their response less than 100%. <BR/><BR/>A stats prof once told me that statistics is more of an art than a science (in contrast to mathematics). I deal with this kind of thing all the time at work, where people want to make decisions based on evidence, so long as the evidence is presented in a way that supports what their own gut-feelings were to begin with. The numbers can be calculated and presented in many different ways and still be "correct", but in my view no more sound than their own "feelings" were to begin with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-31952013091566977082007-03-17T22:05:00.000-07:002007-03-17T22:05:00.000-07:00ms smarties, don't stop spamming me, I feel I'm mo...ms smarties, don't stop spamming me, I feel I'm more popular that way =P<BR/><BR/>Wow, I never thought that my post (which was poorly written in my mind) generated so much hubub.<BR/><BR/>I see that people here may be referring to different things, or may have different points of view of the same thing. I'm cool with that.<BR/><BR/>However if you are going to leave a comment (I'm referring to the two unnamed people above), please articulate your thoughts a little better. A one-liner doesn't explain what you really are referring to, I'm interested as to what you base your definition of "compatibility" on. I would be surprised if it's the same as mine.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07757048792813005486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-14963144313340337412007-03-17T08:35:00.000-07:002007-03-17T08:35:00.000-07:00Why don't you believe in compatibility? I wrote my...Why don't you believe in compatibility? I wrote my MA thesis on relationships (more specifically online dating). Studies have shown that "birds of a feather flock together". Compatibility is hugely important to successful relationships. <BR/><BR/>I do feel that we're 100% compatible, 19 times out of 20. It's still 100%. Marriage would be hard work otherwise. If we had different goals different and values, we would be arguing constantly. <BR/><BR/>Anyhow, I should stop spamming Irene's blog!Ms.Smartieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09002034634372135465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-82286471964035341012007-03-16T19:56:00.000-07:002007-03-16T19:56:00.000-07:00That's great! Anecdotally, I would say that it is ...That's great! Anecdotally, I would say that it is not the norm, so good on you both! My response to the anonymous posters was from the point of view that speaking of "100% compatibility" is good for philosophers and mathematicians, but not that realistic when it comes to real human relationships. (I don't post very often to this blog, but once in a while I feel compelled to, especially when it's a topic I care deeply about)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-26657942862051455582007-03-15T15:58:00.000-07:002007-03-15T15:58:00.000-07:00I've been married for three years now (together fo...I've been married for three years now (together for 5.5 yrs). I don't know whether it's the norm or not, but I can honestly say that marriage has not been hard work at all for me. We spend so much time together and never get tired of each other. Truly sickening ;-).Ms.Smartieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09002034634372135465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-76203941681700564862007-03-15T14:17:00.000-07:002007-03-15T14:17:00.000-07:00I, like many other married people I know, used to ...I, like many other married people I know, used to have those delusions (when were single). If you are married and can say these things based on experience, congratulations. Otherwise, it is hypothetical...but I supposed it is a pleasant dream.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-56872627396542934752007-03-15T13:05:00.000-07:002007-03-15T13:05:00.000-07:00I agree with the previous poster. I don't think ma...I agree with the previous poster. <BR/><BR/>I don't think marriage is hard work either. If you are a 100% compatible, there is no work to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20219343.post-37006803726962313642007-03-14T22:01:00.000-07:002007-03-14T22:01:00.000-07:00Marriage is hard work? Really?Disagree I must. M...Marriage is hard work? Really?<BR/><BR/>Disagree I must. Marriage is like a nice romantic walk in the park. It's all based on compatibility.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com